The Decision

April 19, 2013 is a pivotal date for me. That’s the day that I officially decided that I had enough of beauty salons and all the drama that comes with them, including putting creamy crack, aka harmful chemicals called relaxers in my hair. My disgust with my beautician of 8 years on that day helped me make a firm decision to go natural, a decision I had been pondering for at least 3 or 4 years. I had already damaged my hair by curling it constantly with the curling or flat irons at the crown of my head, so the only answer for that was to chop it all off and start from scratch. I’ve always loved having short hair so that was an easy decision to make. But the short hair also made it easier for me to begin the transitioning process, so  here I am today.

To date I have not had a relaxer since April 6, 2013. Today is Thursday May 30th. I have a small fro going on with a small amount of relaxer on the ends. I will post pictures of my progress soon, but in the mean time I have posted pictures of my hair in various hair styles with a relaxer in it with the exception of the picture of me in kindergarten . I’m full of excitement, questions, and I’m open to any and all suggestions from my fellow natural sistas. I’ve been watching YouTube videos and getting inspiration from Pinterest and pinning hair styles and healthy DIY hair products. I haven’t been chemically free since I was 15, so I’m excited to see my natural hair in all it’s glory again. I have no delusions that this journey will be easy, that I won’t have days where I want to give up and make an appointment at the new salon I found before I decided to go natural and get the creamy crack again. I know there may be days when I look at myself in the mirror and wonder why did I do this to myself. Despite all of that there’s a huge part of me that is very determined to see this journey through all the ups and downs, the highs and lows. Deep down I know this is the best thing I can do for the health of my hair and scalp. More than anything, I want to set the example for my two girls.

Last year I made the horrible decision to give my girls kiddie relaxers. They looked beautiful for the first few months and then the breakage started. The breakage actually started with my youngest daughter almost immediately. She was 8 and my oldest daughter was 10 when I gave them the relaxers. When I saw the extent of the breakage I stopped giving them the relaxers and began the transitioning process for them. They haven’t had a relaxer in almost 6 months. I keep their hair braided and moisturized and it’s been growing back just fine. My oldest daughter told me when she had her relaxer that she missed the poofiness of her hair, her natural curls. That made me feel even worse. Here this child is recognizing the beauty of her natural hair and all I was thinking about was how relaxers would make my life easier as far as taking care of their hair. That wasn’t true at all. My girl’s hair was sooo much healthier and beautiful without them, and putting chemicals in their hair will always be my biggest regret when it comes to them.The good thing is we are all in this transitioning journey together as mother and daughters.

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  1. Yay! Good for you giving up the creamy crack…it’s addictive, isn’t it? Your choice of the big chop was a good one, I think…far more economical and authentic. God bless you on your journey! 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your encouraging words Muhala! I thought transitioning was the way to go but I quickly found that I didn’t have the patience or $$$ for it. If I truly transitioned then I would want braids to help with the process and with 4 kids I don’t have the money to shell out $200+ every couple of months to get my hair braided. So yeah, chopping it off and rocking a TWA was definitely more economical AND I love short hair anyway! 😉

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