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Be Encouraged


Be encouraged

I don’t have all the answers. I’m still learning and I’m over four plus years into my natural hair journey. Lately I’ve been hearing a lot about protective styling – those who are against braids/weaves/wigs, and those who are for them. I’m very pro-braids and protective styling, as I sit here with micro braids in my hair now. But I do agree that overuse of braids/weaves/wigs can be very detrimental to your hair and should be used sparingly. What I don’t like is the negative bashing toward those who do like to use protective styles.

There have been many conversations about wash and go’s and how they can be done on 4c hair. I’m not disputing that at all. I did wash and go’s when I big chopped and barely had an inch of hair on my head. That was super easy to do! My hair isn’t what I’d consider to be long right now, but it’s long enough to become time consuming. Wash and go’s also entail the use the several products for them to work such as leave in conditioners, moisturizers, and some type of gel. All of those things cause flaking and white residue in my thick, coarse, 4c hair. From what everyone says, you have to find the right combination of products for a wash and go to work. There’s my red flag. I don’t want to have to buy a bunch of products to have a style that will only last a day and a half for me, or at the worst, leave a flaky residue in my hair. I’m not a product junkie, but trying to achieve the perfect wash and go will definitely turn me into one.

I’ve set a personal goal for myself to stop being lazy and to do a better job at keeping my hair moisturized and well conditioned. I think if I start there, the rest (healthiness and growth) will follow. The thought of doing another big chop have crossed my mind, but we’ll see. I’m not quite ready to give up on my hair. I’m saying all of this to say that I read a lot about natural hair because I love reading other women’s experiences, struggles and triumphs. But we all have to remember that what works for one person may not work for you. Many of us wear protective styles out of necessity or convenience. Not everyone have time in the morning to do a wash and go, and quite frankly, not everyone wants to – and that’s okay.

Reading some of these blogs will have you feeling like the world’s laziest, loser, slacker natural. No one should feel that way. Recognize where you need to make improvements and then make them. My laziness towards my hair resulted in bald spots and breakage, and it’s been well documented in this blog. Now I’m investing more time in my hair. I’m paying closer attention to leave in conditioners, good deep conditioners, and protein treatments. And I’m still looking for good DIY ideas so I can keep my coins in my pockets.  😉 Be encouraged and keep learning. Give your hair the TLC it needs so it can thrive and grow.


Love in the 4C Hair Natural Community



~ Loving Your Hair With Natural Care ~

This is my first post of 2017! Hey now!

I stumbled upon a Facebook group called Type 4 Natural Hair. In this group, there is nothing but love and support for those of us with this hair type. Women from all over the world post pictures, seek advice, encouragement, and share tips. It’s such a supportive group and I couldn’t be happier that I found it and am now a member of its community.

Everyone in this group is in different stages of their natural hair journey, and it’s beautiful to read all the different experiences or some of the same frustrations that I once had when I first started. Women and men of all ages are in this group seeking advice and encouragement for themselves or their kids or grandkids. There’s no negativity allowed, no hair shaming or hair type shaming, and that is huge to me. This Facebook group is exactly what any kinky haired, tightly coiled, natural haired person with questions, concerns, or insights to share should want to be a part of. Check out Type 4 Natural Hair and request to become a member. You’ll love it.


Interview With A Naturalista: Part III


Flaunt your fro

This is my final interview in this series, and I must say it has been a lot of fun connecting with all of the ladies and talking natural hair. Michea is a long time friend of mine. We go waaaaay back and she’s one who has been natural since I’ve known her, and I’ve known her for well over 20 years! She’s the sweetest, funniest, most outgoing person you will ever meet. I think you will find her interview very honest and refreshing.

Q: How long have you been natural?

Michea: I’ve been natural most of my life.

Q: What made you go natural?

Michea: After I got my first relaxer at 14, it has been pure laziness and busy life that keeps me natural.

Q: Was the transition easy?

Michea: I’ve been obsessive about protective styles which has allowed me to be natural so long, so transitioning is always easy. I cut it short then get some braids. When I get bored with my natural hair, I relax it. So no big “natural hair movement” for me. I flip-flop.

Q: What do you love most about having natural hair?

Michea: Versatility and being the only race that has this ability to do what we do with our hair.

Q: What do you find to be your biggest challenge with natural hair?

Michea: Umm finding different hairstyles. When the natural hair community found YouTube, I got more ideas.

Q: What advice/encouragement would you give to someone considering going natural?

Michea: Be patient. You may not love it at first. Do it because you want to not because of pressure, and if you don’t find peace and happiness do something different. Sometimes that means going back to a relaxer.

Q: What are your favorite products to use and protective styles, if any?

Michea: Honestly, I don’t think I have any real favorite products. But since the beginning grease and a spritz of water has given me all I ever needed for a good twist out. Braids are my favorite protective style.

Many thanks to my girl Michea for taking the time to chit-chat with me. Like I always say, every naturalista’s journey is different. Not everyone’s truth is the same as the next person’s. All of my participants, Mleta, Tyssa, and Michea spoke their truths. You may not agree with all of their views, but you can do nothing but respect them because these are their stories and their truths. THANK YOU to all of these lovely ladies for sharing a bit of their natural hair journey with me. I hope it inspires and encourages those who read their interviews and provides them with insight. Let’s keep spreading the positive love and acceptance of everyone’s natural hair journey!

Interview With A Naturalista: Part II


Radiate Positive

Here’s to my first blog post of 2015!!

To continue my series of “Interview With A Naturalista” with the objective of bringing positive energy and encouragement to the natural hair community, I would like to share my interview with Tyssa. Tyssa is a naturalista who likes to change things up with her beautiful, natural hair be it with color, cutting, or wearing braids that she installs herself. Here’s her interview:

Q: How long have you been natural?

Tyssa: I went natural June 2006 at the age of 19.

Q: What made you go natural?

Tyssa: I wanted to not only see my own hair texture, but also because chemicals just burned my scalp!! My hair never got completely straight and I just got tired of it!!

Q: What do you love most about having natural hair?

Tyssa: I have a lot of versatility even though it took me years to accept and love my hair texture, which is very, very coarse and thick.

Q: What did you find to be your biggest challenge with natural hair?

Tyssa:  The difficulties that I found for me was finding the right products to keep my hair moisturized since I have 4C type hair and very thick 4C type hair. I also noticed that the longer it got, the more work, and because I’m so lazy when it comes to my hair, I just kept it short and never allowed my hair to grow longer than 6 inches before cutting it. It had everything to do with combing and the extra 30 minutes to an hour it took to do it.

Q: What advice/encouragement would you give to someone considering going natural?

Tyssa: I would tell anyone going natural that what works for one person doesn’t work for all, and have fun trying new things and learning about your hair and yourself. It teaches you patience if you don’t have it already. Embrace your textures and don’t worry so much about length but healthy hair instead. I would also tell them not to compare their journey to someone else’s because everyone has their own unique journey.

Q: What are your favorite products to use and protective styles, if any?

Tyssa: I keep my hair in braids as a protective style. As far as products I use, I’m still experimenting because what worked 6 months ago doesn’t work now, and I have to make a lot of my own products because a lot of the products they have on the market I am allergic to the ingredients.

THANK YOU Tyssa for taking the time to speak with me and for sharing your positive and insightful experiences! I hope your journey inspire and help others. 🙂

HAPPY One Year Creamy Crack Free To ME!


Balloons and cafetti

April marks my first year of no longer putting chemical relaxers, aka creamy crack in my hair. I’m over the moon happy about this milestone because I feel free and brand new! I feel like I’ve shed an old part of me similar to how a snake sheds old, dead skin. For years I abused my hair and scalp, and one year ago I finally got the courage to do something that I wanted to do for the past four years – go natural. It’s such a liberating feeling! Making the decision to go natural is why I started this blog. I wanted to share my experience with as many as I could reach and hopefully be a source of inspiration and encouragement to those who are on the same journey or thinking about taking this journey.

Since going back to my natural roots I’ve been more aware of all my fellow naturalistas out there. So many of my friends have gone natural while other friends have been natural for years. When I see naturalistas on the street I feel a sense of pride and I can’t help but smile at them or compliment them on their hair and ask questions. It’s a sister and brotherhood that we share, and it’s such a beautiful, wonderful thing to see so many embracing their natural beauty. Some critics are quick to call the natural hair movement a “fad” and I hate hearing that. Doing something that is good for your overall health and health of your hair and scalp is not a fad. Embracing your natural beauty and culture is never a fad.

We all have different reasons and different situations that led us down the path of natural hair, and no one should judge why a person made that decision. Nor should anyone judge those who choose to get chemical relaxers or perms in their hair. That’s why I celebrate and encourage those who choose to be natural. It’s scary yet exciting, frustrating yet fulfilling. It’s a journey filled with highs and lows and many learning experiences. More importantly it’s a journey I’ll never regret.


When is your creamy crack free anniversary? What made you go natural? Please share, I’d love to hear your story!