Overly sensitive people in the natural hair community. I know we all have our struggles as naturalista’s, and we’re constantly battling negative stereotypes when it comes to our natural hair. But when we have discussions amongst ourselves, we should be able to speak freely and not be censored by the natural hair police or admins of a group who try to tell you what you can and cannot say, especially when it’s not demeaning or offensive. We all have different thoughts and opinions, and having natural hair is not going to change that. Having natural hair does not mean that we’re exempt from all criticism. That’s not being realistic at all.
I’m starting to rethink being part of natural hair groups on Facebook because I’m finding that grown women don’t know how to have grown up conversations about HAIR. It’s sickening and it’s a shame. I left a group tonight because the admins tried to chastise and tell others how they should and should not feel and what they can and cannot say when everyone was simply stating their opinion on a hairstyle. Yes, a hairstyle people. It was so ridiculous and so petty and uncalled for. And that’s when I said “You know what? I’m too old for this.”
We cannot control what people think, what they say, or how they feel. All we can do is focus on ourselves and keep ourselves uplifted. Tune out the negativity and keep showing the strength and beauty of our natural hair as much as possible. Be supportive of one another and stop trying to make people think and feel the way you do. Those who are natural still have misinformed, backwards, or flat out ignorant thoughts on natural hair, which means not everyone is on the same path or level in their journey as you may be. People can only learn through education, not censorship.
So why have I been making it so hard? Or am I just lazy/content with what I’ve been doing thus far? I think it’s the latter. Lately, I’ve been seriously thinking about other ways to protective style that will not hurt my pocket book so much. (I just showed my age saying pocket book LOL!) I LOVE going to the shop and getting my hair braided, however that’s not always financially feasible. Braids are a wonderful investment that you can get two – three months out of, especially when you find a great hair braider. Crochet braids only last for a few weeks (depending on style and type of hair you use) and then you have to take them down.
In the meantime, I’ve gotten myself into the bad habit of twisting or plaiting my hair and then taking it down the next day to wear a curly fro, then retwisting or plaiting to do it all over again night after night. Well, I’m noticing split ends and extra shedding. Not good. The shedding and split ends aren’t just because of over manipulation. It’s also because I haven’t been tucking my hair away this winter. The cold, harsh winter air has my hair dry and brittle. To be more loving and gentler to my hair, I’ve set a new goal for myself, inspired by fellow Naturalista’s on Facebook. My goal is to leave my hair in a protective style for a week and to keep doing it every week until it becomes a habit. I think this is a great goal for people like myself who desperately need to leave their hair alone.
Yesterday, I had an epiphany. Not only am I going to invest in more colorful scarves so I can wrap my hair in different styles, I’m going to also invest in a WIG! And not just any ole’ wig, I want a good wig that looks like my natural hair. I’ll admit that I’ve been resistant towards wigs for quite some time. I’ve never worn one in my entire life except for a talent show. I’ve always felt that I wouldn’t look right in them. But I’ve now had a change of heart and I’m ready to rock a wig! Maybe it’s because I’m in my 40’s and I no longer care about what other people think. Regardless of the reason, I’m here for them. I’m here for wigs!
Until I get my wig and more colorful scarves, here’s what I’m rocking today to keep my plaits in my hair:
Come through, hat! 😉
I try to capture my hair in all stages to document growth or if a twist out turned out nice. I chose some photos from my phone just to share. I’m lacking in the hair styling department. As you can see, my go-to is a headband. Lately, I’ve been just letting my afro be free and do what it do. A few weeks back I did a light blow out. It didn’t take long for my 4c hair to draw back up, LOL!
I’ve also been rocking headwraps, but I need some color in my life desperately! I’m working on getting some color and patterns in my life with my headwraps. 😉 I also tried my hand at flat twisting my hair. It wasn’t great, but it served its purpose for that day. My goal is to experiment more with styles for my hair. I’ll keep you posted!
~ Loving Your Hair With Natural Care ~
This is my first post of 2017! Hey now!
I stumbled upon a Facebook group called Type 4 Natural Hair. In this group, there is nothing but love and support for those of us with this hair type. Women from all over the world post pictures, seek advice, encouragement, and share tips. It’s such a supportive group and I couldn’t be happier that I found it and am now a member of its community.
Everyone in this group is in different stages of their natural hair journey, and it’s beautiful to read all the different experiences or some of the same frustrations that I once had when I first started. Women and men of all ages are in this group seeking advice and encouragement for themselves or their kids or grandkids. There’s no negativity allowed, no hair shaming or hair type shaming, and that is huge to me. This Facebook group is exactly what any kinky haired, tightly coiled, natural haired person with questions, concerns, or insights to share should want to be a part of. Check out Type 4 Natural Hair and request to become a member. You’ll love it.
I’m giddy with excitement because I made my first DIY shampoo and it was so simple! This is something I’ve been wanting to do for a very long time and I finally bought the main ingredient, African Black Soap.
The benefits of African Black Soap:
- Black soap is made with rare tropical honeys that are known for softening the skin and creating a smooth surface.
- Black soap is also a natural source of vitamins A & E and iron. This helps to strengthen the skin and hair.
- Black soap contains a high amount of glycerin, which absorbs moisture from the air and literally deposits it into the skin, making the skin soft and supple.
- For centuries, Ghanaians and Nigerians have used black soap to help relieve acne, oily skin, clear blemishes and various other skin issues. Many swear by it for skin irritations and conditions such as eczema and psoriasis.
With that being said, here is a simple recipe I’ve found. Please be aware that you must be the judge of the amount you make based on your needs. I decided to make enough to fill a 32 oz bottle that I had, so here’s what I did:
What you’ll need:
- Big pot
- Cheese grater
- Big bowl
- 1/2 (or less) bar of African Black Soap
- Jojoba oil
- Vegetable Glycerin
- Vitamin E oil
- Tea Tree oil
- Rosemary essential oil
*Feel free to add or substitute oils you desire such as argan oil, lavender essential oil, neem oil, etc. I used what I had on hand.
- Add enough water to your pot to fill whatever bottle or container you plan on storing your shampoo in. Bring it to a boil and remove it from the heat.
- Take your cheese grater and grate the amount of black soap you want to use for your shampoo. I used half of a bar based on the amount of shampoo I wanted to make. Grating the soft soap helps it to dissolve quickly in the water instead of having to wait hours or overnight like other DIY recipes call for.
- Add the soap to a large bowl and pour your hot water over it.
- Add your oils to the water and soap.
- I used the following amounts for my mixture:
- 2-3 Tbsp of Jojoba oil
- 1 – 2 tsp of Vegetable Glycerin
- 1 -2 Tbsp of Vitamin E oil
- 1 Tbsp of Tea Tree oil
- 10 drops of Rosemary essential oil
- Stir your mixture. You’ll notice how quickly your black soap dissolves. Keep stirring until you no longer see any chunks of soap.
- Allow the mixture to cool before transferring to your bottle. Once your mixture has cooled, use your funnel to transfer the liquid into your bottle. That’s it! Your shampoo is ready for use!
If you’re wondering why so many oils are used, it’s because African soap alone can be very drying to your hair, so that’s why it’s good to add additional oils, especially if you’re prone to dry hair. Oils that help retain moisture such as jojoba and argan are great to use. Again, use as little or as much as your hair needs.
My Results: The African Black Soap shampoo lathers easily, so you don’t need to use much for a good wash. Your shampoo won’t be thick in texture but will be watery, so don’t be alarmed. After shampooing twice, my hair and scalp felt very clean and soft. I followed it with a sage and rosemary tea rinse, rinsing my hair several times with the tea.
I put my bottle of shampoo in the fridge just to be on the safe side. Prior to washing your hair again, just take it out of the fridge and let it get room temperature before using.
If you’re like me and are looking for the healthiest, natural DIY solutions for your hair that are also money savers, this is an excellent DIY shampoo recipe to keep and use. I apologize for not posting any photos of the shampoo itself. I forgot to take a picture of it while mixing it in my bowl! 😦 Till next time… xoxo
Hello, lovelies! In a previous blog post I provided the following recipe for a daily moisturizing spritz:
In a clean spray bottle add:
- Half cup of distilled water
- Two tablespoons of aloe vera juice
- Two tablespoons of vegetable glycerin
- Two tablespoons of jojoba oil
Shake the bottle well and spritz hair with it. Style as normal. Feel free to adjust the amounts as you see fit, based on how your hair reacts. Always test new products on your skin first to check for any allergic reaction.
I want to update step 3. Two tablespoons of vegetable glycerin is too much. I would change that to one teaspoon. A little vegetable glycerin goes a long way. While the spritz moisturized my hair, it kept my hair in a constant shrunken state. Case in point: I’d leave the house with a bomb afro. By the time I’d make it to work, my afro would be reduced to a small packed down fro. Not cute.
Apologies to anyone who may have used the previous recipe I provided with not so great results. Always feel free to adjust recipes to fit your hair needs. No two heads of hair are alike! *Kisses*
Last week a workmate gave me a bunch of fresh sage that was grown in her mother’s garden. My first thought was “What can I cook with this?” Then I thought about how I could use this on my hair. I remembered reading about how some naturals use Rosemary and other herbs as tea rinses. I also read that Sage is good for your hair and promotes hair growth. Naturally, I began to Google the benefits of Sage for your hair and skin.
Benefits of Sage:
- Sage is a traditional topical treatment for graying hair
- Sage may promote new hair growth. Sage is an astringent, so when applied to the scalp, it increases the flow of blood to the follicles and so promotes hair growth.
- Using a sage hair rinse is said to thicken hair and strengthen it and give your hair shine. Sage essential oil is also said to be an effective way to combat hair loss too.
- Sage has antibiotic, antiallergic and antiseptic properties and is a source of magnesium, zinc, potassium, and vitamins B and C.
- As for the skin, if you use cold sage tea as a skin toner, it will help clear up acne, reduce inflammation and leave your skin feeling fresh and clean.
After learning about all the wonderful benefits of Sage, I immediately wanted to know how I could effectively use the fresh sage that I had on hand. I found a very simple way to use my sage.
Making the Sage Tea:
- In a pot, add however much water you want to use – it’s up to you
- Bring water to boil
- Add two or three stalks of fresh sage to the water
- Turn off heat and allow the sage to steep for about 15 minutes
- Remove the stalks (I used a fork) and allow the tea to cool
- Pour the sage tea into a large cup or bowl and then rinse hair, massaging your scalp as you do so
On my wash day, I washed my hair with baking soda water and rinsed with apple cider vinegar. As my final rinse, I used the sage tea BUT I rinsed it several times with the tea. I placed a large bowl in my sink to catch the tea as I rinsed, and then poured it back into my cup and repeated about two – three more times. I wanted to make sure my entire head was saturated with the tea to get all the benefits from it. You don’t have to do this if you don’t want to, but it was something I wanted to do.
I detangled my hair and then allowed it to semi-air dry before adding my oils and mango butter to prepare for twisting. I will say that my coils felt looser and my hair did not draw up like it normally does after a regular shampooing and conditioning. My hair and scalp felt very clean and soft after doing this sage tea rinse.
I plan on purchasing some sage and rosemary essential oils to keep on hand to use as a daily light spritz. Do you do herbal tea rinses? If so what have your results been, and what herbs do you use? Please leave a comment below!